High End Submissive

The High End Submissive

This submissive often emerges quite young. This submissive is most often a female. S/he will generally be quite bright, articulate, charming, loving, giving, career-oriented, and willful. None of these characteristics will identify or reveal this submissive's truth. Often, this submissive will learn very early to mask their truth. They will recognize in terror it's potentials and will often take serious measures to obscure any hint of their true nature to those around them. With some, they will spend enormous amounts of time watching television and movies to 'pattern' normal behavior based on what they see. This is a form of self-training or self-shielding. They will often be extremely well-read for the same reason. They instinctively know that survival requires them to be 'invisible'.

These masks can be enormously effective, allowing this submissive to manage themselves without attracting the true attention of others. It is common for some high-end submissives to create alternate personas to 'deal' with the outer world. They will usually have a 'defender' personality that will appear to be quite Dominant. Often this defender will be loud spoken, aggressive, and almost pathologically defensive. Many submissives will actually name this defender. They will generally have a 'normal' persona as well. This will usually take on their given name and will incorporate enough of the defender's personality to maintain a wall or safety zone for the inner self. The core being or true self will hide. Often the submissive will not fully name this core, almost believing that if they should name it, then someone will find it, summon it/them forth, expose them.

I am not talking about a split personality here. Not talking about a mental 'disorder'. The submissive is fully aware of what they have done and why. Their life is an ongoing challenge of survival. They know all sides of themselves. They know what they are hiding.

The High-End Submissive is not a volunteer. When in the presence of an 'expressing' Dominant male or female, this submissive will feel 'compelled' to respond. This is not a thought or voluntary choice. The best way I can describe it is on a primal or instinctive level. When I say 'expressing Dominant, ' I am describing any individual who is in the midst of a strongly emissive Dominant event. All humans appear to me to have Dominant and submissive sides. They seem to be simply 'stronger' in one of these sides. Any individual may become involved in a situation that brings out this Dominant side. This often occurs in a violent way. When we are children, it may happen in a school yard squabble or scuffle. Body chemistries triggered by fear and excitement are often components of accentuating the 'Dominant Energy' which will be emitted by the individual within the event.

As a child, the High-End Submissive may find themselves literally throwing themselves physically between two fighting persons. The reaction is spontaneous and terrified. The submissive 'needs' the Dominant to stop... to control. In addition, this submissive will often 'express' submission. No threat. Calm. The apparent intent is to deflect the Dominant energy, summon or return the Dominant to control of themselves. The interface of unexpected submissive energy will often 'shut down' the explosive or violent scene. Sometimes the submissive will go so far as to 'draw' the 'energy' of the Dominant, and they may find themselves within the whirlpool of uncontrolled violence of a Dominant out of control. This reaction or response is irrational to many outside viewers. After the event ends, the submissive may find themselves verbally chastised by friends and family for the stupidity of what they have done. This second companion experience often serves to isolate the submissive from these same friends or family, as they cannot readily explain what has happened to them or why. This type of event is 'how' most high-end submissives get their first taste of themselves.

Early on, they become management experts. They learn how to cope with sudden space events. (A High-End Submissive to some extent lives 'in-space' the majority of the time). They learn how to make jokes about speech gaps, slurring, and detachment. Often, they may allude to being trashed (although they have imbibed no alcohol or drugs). They learn how to recognize and exit the presence of a Dominant without openly expressing their true nature. They manage. Their greatest fear and desire is to be recognized, properly identified.

The advent of the Internet created new opportunities for these submissives and new problems. Their patterning and masks are primarily constructed through physical actions and responses. The limitations of the Internet to written communication may tend to strip away some of their hard-won defensive systems. The sudden ability to be 'open' or free to express their inner self often leads to a false sense of security based on the illusory anonymity of the Internet. The submissive may throw themselves happily into the safety of the Internet experience, not truly realizing that their peculiar state will continue to make them vulnerable, perhaps even more so in this subtle venue. This high-end submissive is reactive to many things. Dominant energy, command structures, the Voice, directive inflection, and other things are coupled to their intense 'need' or desire to be their true self, making them susceptible in a whole 'new' way. These Dominant traits can and are expressed in the written word. The submissive, having learned and patterned through extensive reading, is now vulnerable to something that was never interactive before. What was part of their defenses now reveals itself to be a gate for the unwary. I want to restate at this point that the real high-end submissive is 'quite' rare. Many, if not all, submissives share some of a high-end submissive's traits. Few submissives are truly auto-responsive and subject to nonconsensual access and manipulation by a Dominant. Most submissives have sufficient personal shielding to resist access and the capacity to rationally consider decisions, in addition to the decisive ability to say simply, No!

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