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Kegels ~
Many forms of BDSM scening involve or may involve activity to the pelvis, vagina, and anus. Since a great number of women entering the lifestyle have had children, it is not uncommon for many women to have weakened pelvic muscles. The loss of muscular definition or control in the pelvis or anus may limit the range of play in this area. Some women will already be familiar with these exercises as they are becoming more commonly recommended for women during pregnancy when there is an increased risk of urine leakage due to pressure in the pelvis upon the bladder and urethra.
Kegels are exercises that involve the pelvic floor. These muscles support the urethra, bladder, uterus, and rectum. These exercises are or should be painless and, over 3 months, should reduce or significantly improve the woman's ability to control urine loss. (Please note that urine should not be held for long periods of time in the bladder, and these exercises are not to encourage any couple to believe that such 'holding' is healthy or safe for the individual woman! These exercises are to develop and strengthen muscles to prevent accidental leakage from weak or weakened muscles. Please consult your physician for the exact medical ramifications of any 'extended' control play before engaging in such activity.)
To identify the proper muscles, the woman should place her finger (please wash her hands with soap and water first!) in her vagina and squeeze. When she feels pressure 'around' her finger, she is using the correct muscles. When first beginning these exercises, it is suggested that the woman check herself frequently to be certain she is using the right muscles, since these are subtle or hidden muscles in an area of the body where it is easy to err. The woman should focus directly on the muscles that are active in this exercise. She should make sure that she is in a comfortable, relaxed state and position (either lying down or sitting comfortably) and that she is flexing only the vaginal muscles. These exercises do not involve abdominal muscles, thigh muscles, or back muscles. She should contract the vaginal muscles to the count of four and relax to the count of four and repeat this for at least five minutes a day, twice a day to begin. She should increase the time count and duration of the exercises as the muscles strengthen. A beginner should start with their knees together and slowly (over the course of 3 months) learn to open or spread the legs to intensify the exercises. At 3 months, the woman should be able to hold the vaginal muscles to a count of 8-10 with her knees spread. Optimum control is maintained by doing this 'set' of exercises every 12 hours for 5 minutes.
Please consult your physician if you have any persistent medical problems, urinal leakage, discoloration, pain, or discharge. The female urination system is a 'fragile' system and should be monitored closely by every woman, and every effort to protect bodily health and well-being should be taken.
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