Submission On Terms

Submission On Terms

Propositions, limitations, or provisions stated or offered for the acceptance of another, and determining the nature, scope, and conditions of the agreement.
 

The ONE TRUE WAY ~

All submissives are being created as equal or the nature of expressed submission as being of one form to the exclusion or disregard of any variations or diversity within the nature of that expression.

We can, in general terms, identify what we consider to be actions and expressions of submission. There are those to whom the refinement of this identification takes on a form of importance as they seek to 'include' or 'exclude' other individuals from this identification or role as seen or determined by what they believe is the 'ONE TRUE WAY'. This 'narrowing' is a way to establish rules and boundaries that can then be levied by the weight of 'common agreement' upon those who fall outside of this constantly narrowing identification. This becomes an exclusionary tactic that is often used to 'control' or discriminate against others. This is the same societal structure that has been summarily vacated by those seeking to discover this separate understanding of themselves. In the establishment of a new 'societal structure', the first 'action' is to identify who belongs, where they belong, and the creation of handles to control or manage that structure. This becomes the dictating of policy, ideology, rules, limits, conditions, scope, and provisions. We tend to do what we know.

It is important to remember that policies that exclude others discriminate, inevitably limiting diversity. The need to find a distinct position or place within a new community is an action of immaturity most often driven by sensations of vulnerability and fear.

As individuals, each being is unique with their own viewpoint, personal limitations, and provisions within any interactive agreement. An offering of submission lies completely within the distinct and separate relationship envelope of the submissive and that which they are submitting to. Please note that each person can submit to ideals, concepts, thoughts, and desires as well as to any individual or organization of their choice. The nature of that submission need not be agreeable to anyone outside of that submission, nor should the terms so negotiated and agreed to be subjected to summary judgment by others who consider the 'measure' of submission unacceptable or not within what 'they' consider to be 'proper' to the term.

Imposition of rules, protocol, and behavior upon others is a way to 'exchange places' with societal censorship, allowing the behavior of the individual to be lauded, reestablishing a structure of 'superior' and 'inferior'. The more rules that are established and executed as governable, the greater the reduction in personal freedom, creativity, and expression. It is with great care that the BDSM and other aligned alternative communities set forth the basic tenets of minimum behavior within the interaction of people exploring these lifestyles. Those tenets are the safety of each human being (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual), the protection of sanity through actions and deeds of human upon human to willfully protect the stability of the adult to develop and retain mental health. A reduction in mental health limits the ability to formulate rational voluntary consent, which leads to the third and final tenet, which is 'informed consent' between legal-age adults. These alone are the 'rules' of conduct which apply to everyone involved. We like to include further rules, ideas, and concepts as being 'part of' these groups, but must recognize that as we create 'new layers' of rules, we are in fact offering our subjective opinions on the 'behavior' choices of other consensual adults. We would dislike to have these same subjective opinions leveled against us, as viewpoints change, so we must continue to guard ourselves against the trappings of 'hardening labels'.

A submissive states, thinks, or otherwise believes themselves to be submissive. This state is not subject to the external measurement or judgment of others for relative worth or value. In the exploration of the self, the individual should determine what their personal truth is beyond and before how that truth might be viewed by anyone else. In grasping the truth within, the individual can then express their nature as it is true for themselves alone. It becomes essential to remember that outside or external 'measure' is a function of the person judging or measuring and has nothing to do with the essence within the individual being so measured or judged. Negative evaluation or judgment of others is an expression of negativity from within and may reflect the internal state of the person so judging, and has no 'reality' toward that which they levy their judgment upon.

The 'ONE TRUE WAY' is your way. It is true for you and you alone.

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