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The Second Gift
It is fairly said that the first gift of the submissive is absolute trust. This action of faith and belief precedes true knowledge of the dominant that each submissive invests in. It is within an action of blind faith that she entrusts her life and mind to a stranger. This is an action of duality, both reckless folly and glorious courage.
Though it is rampant to discuss the nature and qualities of the actions of submission, I have found that few offer concrete guidance in a more universal format. And, being somewhat of a control freak, I summarily decided that my opinion should now be imposed on all of you (my willing victims) [grins]. The second gift the submissive offers is self-discipline and/or Submergence of the Ego. Ok, I hear lots of ducking and dodging.
Domination is not an action of force. Rather, it is an inaction on the part of the Dominant. Essentially, the submissive gives the Dominant the illusion of directed control by offering their personal directed actions as a gift to the Dominant. The submissive is a master of self-control, personal manipulation, and extreme competence. To the submissive, the challenges of meeting and even surpassing the gauntlet the Dominant lays down are perhaps the most exciting thing they can do in their life.
The Dominant appears from the outside to direct and control the submissive, while actually they are submitting to the needs and desires of the submissive. That submissive desires extreme interaction and attention and offers to the Dominant the challenge of topping them. It becomes a mental dance of discovery and enlightenment.
The actuality is that both Dominant and submissive only exist within the presence of their mate. Both are executing voluntary action to create the scene of D/s. Should one or either cease consenting or agreeing to the design of the interaction, then the D/s aspect vanishes. Neither party controls the whole of the relationship.
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