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Poaching
Poacher
A person who trespasses or steals illegally or wrongfully.
A willful act in full knowledge that such property belongs or is the property of another.
Poaching most often refers to game and often alludes to some of our more beautiful or endangered animal species.
In recent times, we have seen an enormous influx of people into our formerly private or semisecret inner society. Most large urban areas now have a small selection of semi-public dungeons which cater to our community by offering space and equipment to scene with and on.
During the rapid growth cycle of any community, there will be those who seek to profit or prey upon those who are part of the growth. In the case of the BDSM or D/s community, these profiteers or predators are increasing along with the increasing population of the community itself.
It is not uncommon to find 'fringe' players who frequent some of the newer or less well-run dungeons. These 'fringers' tend to ignore customary protocol and view anyone entering the premises as 'fair game' regardless of whether that person has obvious signs or openly identifies themselves as being unavailable. In most cases, this 'fringer' is what we sometimes call a Bondage Parlor Dominant, and the potential prey is any submissive entering that dungeon unescorted. This 'person' identifies themselves as a dominant, yet they openly or brazenly accost, approach, or otherwise handle, touch, or attempt to isolate or use the submissive without the permission and/or consent of that submissive's Dominant. They show no respect for the submissive or that submissive's Dominant (present or absent). They show no respect for the lifestyle, its choices, and responsibilities. They do not understand the basic concepts of honor, trust, or loyalty. They will employ virtually any method to access a submissive for their personal usage and pleasure without regard or consideration for anyone else's needs. Please note that I do not consider these persons to be Dominant. These are simply users and abusers who lurk on the edges of our community, looking for a quick, easy, and cheap thrill.
The presence of 'fringers' looking to 'pickup' unwary submissives at a dungeon is a sure sign that this dungeon has organizational and management problems. If a dungeon openly caters to 'public viewing' of BDSM perverts as entertainment or as a place to find free or cheap semi-violent sexual encounters, then this dungeon is doing a grave disservice to the community itself.
The management of a dungeon may be unaware of growing problems within their own dungeons, as most of these poaching attempts are done in isolated areas within the dungeons themselves. If the accosted submissive is insecure or even afraid of reporting these actions of harassment due to the 'supposed reputation' of the poacher, then the problem may continue or grow. It is also common for these poachers to attempt to lure a submissive away from their Dominant by means of badmouthing the Dominant to the submissive directly.
It is very important to remember that if you desire your 'collared' submissive to be 'safe' within community frequented dungeons, then certain rules of conduct must be observed and maintained by you, your submissive, and all members of the community using these dungeons. If a dungeon or organization openly ignores these fundamental rules of conduct, if an unescorted submissive feels unsafe being present within these facilities, then, as an individual, it becomes necessary to inform the owner or management of the facility that this activity is occurring. BDSM dungeons and clubs depend upon the community in order to remain open. Actively choosing not to support facilities with inadequate supervision or poor management practices is in the best interest of the community.
It is equally important for local communities to actively practice respect and support for their members. Disrespect affects everyone - if you do not respect the 'collar' of another, then they will not respect your collar either. Known offenders of these simple rules of conduct should not be welcome in an environment that is supposed to be safe for all members of this community to participate in and enjoy. If a facility has a known poaching problem and refuses to correct or address this problem, then the local community should withdraw its support and take its business and community activities elsewhere.
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